Why Asking for Help Made Me a Better Mom (and DIY-er)

I’ve always prided myself on being independent. I like figuring things out on my own and not having to rely on anyone. But the truth is, we all need help at different points in our lives—and that truth hit home for me when we had our first daughter.

In those early days of motherhood, I wanted so badly to appear like I had it all together. I thought if I could just stay organized, stay calm, stay in control—I could handle it all myself. But babies have a funny way of teaching you what’s real. I quickly learned that doing it all alone isn’t sustainable—or necessary. I’m so thankful for my family, who stepped in and gently nudged me to accept their help, even when I resisted.

The help of my husband and family means everything

That lesson carried over into other parts of my life, especially when it came to home renovations. I’ve had to learn to ask for help more than I ever expected. Whether it was asking my husband to teach me how to use a cordless drill or having my dad come over and walk me through using a table saw or properly prepping a wall for paint—these moments have been key to learning and growing.

Here’s what I’ve come to believe: As moms, we need to normalize asking for help. We put so much pressure on ourselves to appear like we’re managing everything perfectly—but what if letting go of that pressure is the key to real growth?

When we ask for help, we open ourselves up to learning new skills, building stronger relationships, and creating space for self-kindness. It doesn’t just apply to DIY projects—it applies to mental health, motherhood, community, and the way we treat ourselves.

We all need love and support

So this is your reminder: You don’t have to do it all alone. I’m here if you ever need help—feel free to reach out or ask me anything.